Love: a feeling that build and broke people.

Love is a word with infinite definition and meaning. In general, love is a feeling of affection, respect, intimacy, togetherness, mutual, and intense emotions experienced by a human. Love is also defined as an intangible connection between two pure hearts. Love doesn't only mean two young hearts exchanging feelings and affection towards each other.  Love is warm attachment, admiration, benevolence, devotion, and strong affection towards anything or anybody passionate about achieving it. While love seems to be a universally valued attribute, defining it in a behavioral term can be challenging. 

Speaking physically, love occurs in the brain, not in the heart. Love activates the same brain regions that are involved when people use euphoria(pleasure, excitement, happiness)-inducing drugs. We tend to think love solely occurs between romantic partners, but this isn't true. A human can experience 8 types of love in various relationships, such as with romantic partners, family members, friends, and even strangers on the streets. Since all types of love are catalyzed differently, each love affects us differently. Just like a bouquet of flowers where all blossom holds different representations. The 8 types of love with description are listed below: 

1. Philia(affectionate love): The term philia originated from Greek and has a meaning of "brotherly love". It is the type of love without romantic attraction that occurs between family members or friends. 

2. pragma(enduring love): It is a unique type of love that matures over a period of time. It's a long-lasting love between a couple that requires dedication and commitment. Instead of "falling in love" you are "standing in love" with the partner you want by your side indefinitely. 

3. Storge(familiar life): It is a natural and instinctual love that occurs due to a deep emotional connection. The love between parents and their offspring, and friends increases with more memories made. 

4. Eros(Romantic love): It is a passionate love expressed via affection. It is also called love at first sight. This is romantic love and romantic behavior includes not only hugging, kissing, and holding hands together, but also physical pleasure including sex. 

5. Ludus(playful love): It is a childish flirtatious love that is commonly found at the beginning of a relationship. This type of love consists of teasing, joking, and laughter between two people. 

6. Mania(obsessive love): Mania is obsessive love toward the love partner which leads to unwanted jealousy and possessiveness called co-dependency. It is mostly found in a couple with an imbalance in love towards each other. 

7. Philautia(self-love): It is a healthy type of love in which people recognize their self-worth and fulfill their personal needs. It is also called love towards one's self. It generally means respect, accept, and appreciate yourself.

8. Agape(selfless love): An empathetic attitude of love for everyone and anyone without any expectation of receiving in return. It is not a physical attraction but is spreading love even there's is a destructive situation.

 

How love make a human stronger?

Loving someone or getting love from someone doesn't mean fixing all their problems. It means listening to them thoroughly, allowing them to express themselves freely, and asking about the situation they are going through. At its core, love also supports individuals emotionally providing support, reassurance, acceptance, and encouragement in a relationship. It is especially important during time of stress, anxiety, and depression as love stabilize the relationship and provide a positive foundation for both partners. Love teaches us to respect each other's feelings, increase understanding between two people, and help to make the bond stronger. 

On the other hand. dopamine creates a feeling of euphoria(happiness, excitement) while adrenaline and norepinephrine are responsible for the pitter-patter of the heart. With the increased level of serotonin and other happiness-inducing hormones, the people involved in love became excited, happy, and more relaxed. He/she will be more healthy, and free from any stress and people get addicted to this happiness. Romantic love increases affection and physical attraction between the opposite sex(mostly but it may occur in same-sex too). Romantic love fulfills all the physical and biological demands driven by hormones such as hugging, kissing, holding hands together, and ultimately sex. Love provides encouragement, satisfaction, and pleasure which motivates people to perform various tasks. 

How does love break people and their sentiments?

Over-expectations from a partner, betrayal, lack of trust, imbalance in the relationship, communication gap, etc. lead the couple towards an emotional breakdown. In the case of romantic love physical abuse, the fulfillment of desire, forcing for a physical relationship, lack of coordination, and loss of affection lead towards the end of the relationship. If a partner whom you love starts to force you against your will, certainly the emotions and sentiments for a partner will be broken and the grief and sadness will knock on the relationship. Romantic love is initially based on attraction and affection, having fun with each other, and a whirlwind of romance. Being compatible with each other, and having respect for each other develops with time but if it can't then it is certain it's going to end. Involvement in drugging, excessive drinking, abuse, keeping secrets, external affairs, cheating, ego, and jealousy are the key decomposers of the relationship.  

In the case of long-distance relationships and love, there'll be very low romance. Lack of fulfillment of the desires(including physical relationship and emotional support), the partner can easily cheat. Communication gaps,  misunderstanding, lack of commitment and faith, reduction in attraction, etc. cause the partners of long-distance to end the love bond and get separated. Also, there is a popular saying that long-distance relationships will succeed if the four of them are happy in a single relationship. In the context of Nepal love is still a matter of fear in society due to the narrow concept and some superstitious beliefs. Some couples had breakups even due to caste problems, the same gotras, Manglik cause, and even non-acceptance from family.  

Whatever the reason causes the end of the relationship, the consequences after that are nasty. Grief, the feelings of loneliness, anxiety, stress, self-blaming, anger, confusion, pessimistic, loss of trust, and faith in people are general emotions flooded after the end of a relationship with a partner with whom attached to emotions and feelings. The relationship involves a big investment of time, emotions, feelings, attention, and money. Losing a partner makes me feel that everything that was put into the relationship gets wasted. Some people whose relationship ended involve excessive drinking, drugging, and loss of control over life resulting in addiction and crime. The loss of a loving partner makes life feel tasteless, alone and dominated by a cruel world. Some people move on but some can't.

Love plays a vital role in stability on earth and in humanity. Love makes people handle daily life in a soothing way. A feeling of togetherness, affection, and mutual respect binds everyone in a single knot fulfilling each other's desires and demands in a sustainable way. Let us spread love and live in a loving way. 

-Nama Raj Bhusal

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